Letter From Ana
me to introduce myself. My name, or as I am called by so called "doctors", is Anorexia. Anorexia Nervosa is my full name,
but you may call me Anna. Hopefully we can become great partners. In the coming time, I will invest a lot of time in you,
and I expect the same from you.
In the past you have heard all of your teachers and parents talk about you. You are
"so mature", "intelligent", "14 going on 45", and you possess "so much potential". Where has that gotten you, may I ask? Absolutely
nowhere! You are not perfect, you do not try hard enough, further more you waste your time on thinking and talking with friends
and drawing! Such acts of indulgence shall not be allowed in the future.
Your friends do not understand you. They
are not truthful. In the past, when the insecurity has quietly gnawed away at your mind, and you asked them, "Do I look...fat?"
and they answered "Oh no, of course not" you knew they were lying! Only I tell you the truth. Your parents, let's not even
go there! You know that they love you, and care for you, but part of that is just that they are your parents and are obligated
to do so. I shall tell you a secret now: deep down inside themselves, they are disappointed with you. Their daughter, the
one with so much potential, has turned into a fat, lazy, and undeserving girl.
But I am about to change all that.
I expect a lot from you. You are not allowed to eat much. It will start slowly: decreasing of fat intake, reading
the nutrition labels, cutting out junk food, fried food, etc. For a while, the exercise will be simple: some running, perhaps
some crunches and some sit-ups. Nothing too serious. Perhaps drop a few pounds, take a little off of that fat tub of a stomach.
But it won't be long before I tell you that it isn't good enough.
I will expect you to drop your calorie intake and
up your exercise. I will push you to the limit. You must take it because you cannot defy me! I am beginning to imbed myself
into you. Pretty soon, I am with you always. I am there when you wake up in the morning and run to the scale. The numbers
become both friend and enemy, and the frenzied thoughts pray for them to be lower than yesterday, last night, etc. You look
into the mirror with dismay. You prod and poke at the fat that is there, and smile when you come across bone. I am there when
you figure out the plan for the day: 400 calories, 2 hours exercise. I am the one figuring this out, because by now my thoughts
and your thoughts are blurring together as one.
I follow you throughout the day. In school, when your mind wanders
I give you something to think about. Recount your calories for the day. It's too much. I fill your mind with thoughts of food,
weight, calories, and things that are safe to think about. Because now, I am already inside of you. I am in your head, your
heart, and your soul. The hunger pains you pretend not to feel is me, inside of you.
Pretty soon I am telling you
not only what to do with food, but what to do ALL of the time. Smile and nod. Present yourself well. Suck in that fat stomach,
dammit! God, you are such a fat cow!!! When mealtimes come around I tell you what to do. I make a plate of lettuce seem like
a feast fit for a king. Push the food around. Make it look like you've eaten something. No piece of anything... if you eat,
all the control will be broken...do you WANT that?? To revert back to the fat COW you once were?? I force you to stare at
magazine models. Those perfect skinned, white teethed, waifish models of perfection staring out at you from those glossy pages.
I make you realize that you could never be them. You will always be fat and never will you be as beautiful as they are. When
you look in the mirror, I will distort the image. I will show you obesity and hideousness. I will show you a sumo wrestler
where in reality there is a starving child. But you must know this, because if you knew the truth, you might start to eat
again and our relationship would come crashing down.
Sometimes you will rebel. Hopefully not often though. You will
recognize the small rebellious fiber left in your body and will venture down to the dark kitchen. The cupboard door will open
slowly open, creaking softly. Your eyes will move over the food cupboard door will slowly open, creaking softly. Your eyes
will move over the food that I have kept at a safe distance from you. You will find your hands reaching out lethargically,
like a nightmare, through the darkness to the box of crackers. You shove them in, mechanically, not really tasting but simply
relishing in the fact that you are going against me. You reach for another box, then another, then another. Your stomach will
become bloated and grotesque, but you will not stop yet. And all the time I am screaming at you to stop, you fat cow, you
really have no self-control, you are going to get fat.
When it is over, you will cling to me again, ask me for advice
because you really do not want to get fat. You broke a cardinal rule and ate, and now you want me back. I'll force you into
the bathroom, onto your knees, staring into the void of the toilet bowl. Your fingers will be inserted into your throat, and,
not without a great deal of pain, your food binge will come up. Over and over this is to be repeated, until you spit up blood
and water and you know it is all gone. When you stand up, you will feel dizzy. Don't pass out. Stand up right now. You fat
cow you deserve to be in pain!
Maybe the choice of getting rid of the guilt is different. Maybe I chose to make you
take laxatives, where you sit on the toilet until the wee hours of the morning, feeling your insides cringe. Or perhaps I
just make you hurt yourself, bang your head into the wall until you receive a throbbing headache. Cutting is also effective.
I want you to see your blood, to see it fall down your arm, and in that split second you will realize you deserve whatever
pain I give you. You are depressed, obsessed, in pain, hurting, reaching out but no one will listen! Who cares?! You are deserving;
you brought this upon yourself.
Oh, is this harsh? Do you not want this to happen to you? Am I unfair? I do do things
that will help you. I make it possible for you to stop thinking of emotions that cause you stress. Thoughts of anger, sadness,
desperation, and loneliness can cease because I take them away and fill your head with the methodic calorie counting. I take
away your struggle to fit in with kids your age, the struggle of trying to please everyone as well. Because now, I am your
only friend, and I am the only one you need to please.
I have a weak spot. But we must not tell anyone. If you decide
to fight back, to reach out to someone and tell them about how I make you live, all hell will break lose. No one must find
out, no one can crack this shell that I have covered you with. I have created you, this thin, perfect, achieving child. You
are mine and mine alone. Without me, you are nothing. So do not fight back. When others comment, ignore them. Take it into
stride, forget about them, forget about everyone that tries to take me away. I am your greatest asset, and I intend to keep
it that way.